Even if we fully understand that making our own decisions is a part of exercising our autonomy, there can be times when choosing between different options still feels challenging.
After all, decisions are not always black and white.
This is most especially true in the topic of contraceptives and sex, which are both hard to talk about, most especially when we're so used to conservative environments. As a result, the discussion around pleasure often gets overlooked, more so when it comes to women.
This is where the Pleasuremeter can help.
Instead of focusing on what we should avoid during sexual experiences,
we can use this to figure out how to make decisions for our sexual health through a more positive lens—one that caters to what feels right and fulfilling.
Advocated by the Feminist Media Lab in their pursuit of reclaiming young women’s sexual pleasure, you can use this cheat sheet to guide you during your sexual dilemmas: whether it may be choosing which contraception method fits you best or what (freaky?!) position you wish to try next.
The Pleasuremeter
Are you experiencing a full, pleasurable experience in your sexual encounter?
Nakakaexperience ka ba ng buo at maligayang experience sa sexual encounter mo?
Are you free to make decisions and choose the sexual experiences you want?
Malaya ka bang nagdedesisyon at pumipili ng mga sexual experiences na gusto mo?
Are you free to agree without being forced into your sexual experiences?
Malaya ka bang nagbibigay ng permiso at pagpayag nang hindi pinipilit sa iyong mga sexual experiences?
Do you feel safe and cared for when you engage in sexual acts or experiences?
Nakakaramdam ka ba na ligtas at naalagaan ka kapag nageengage ka sa sexual acts/Experiences?
Do you have a say on where and how you will experience your sexual pleasure?
Mayroon ka bang choice para piliin kung saan at paano mo maeexpereince ang iyong sexual pleasure?
Do you experience freedom and happiness in expressing yourself and your needs in your sexual experiences?
Nararanasan mo ba ang kalayaan at kasiyahang i-express ang sarili at mga pangangailangan sa iyong sexual experiences?
Can you freely and openly express your boundaries and needs to your sexual partners?
Bukas at malaya mo bang naipapahayag at nasasabi ang mga boundaries at needs mo sa iyong sexual partners?